Słuchaj i ucz się – S-44. The Power of Apology

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Welcome to Spotlight, I'm Christy Van Arragon.

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And I'm Joshua Leo. Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting. It is easier to for people to understand no matter where in the world they live.

I am sorry

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This phrase is one of the most powerful phrases in the English language. It is something that is often difficult to say. Saying I am sorry means that you regret something you did or said. Saying I am sorry is a kind of apology. It is a way to admit that you were wrong. Today's Spotlight is on the power of apology.

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On the streets of Nalanda, India, a man sits wearing very dirty clothes. His clothes are made from old cloth bags. Old shoes hang around his neck. His name is Shyam Narayan Sharma. He has a dark past. Years ago, he admitted to the murders of sixteen people.

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As a young man, Sharma worked as an assassin, a person who kills other people for money. He was fifteen years old when he killed his first person. But this was not his only crime. In nineteen eighty six, [1986] he stole a child. He asked the parents to pay him money - then he would return the child. But after three weeks holding the child, Sharma let the child go. He said he felt sad for the child. The story became famous, but the police never caught him.

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Sharma also owned a factory. Like many people in Nalanda, he made guns. Making these guns was illegal, but it made Sharma a lot of money.

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But after years of crime, Sharma went to the police. He admitted his crimes. The police put Sharma in prison for a few years. But when he was released, Sharma went back to a life of crime. He went back to the police again in 1995, and finally again in 2000.

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During his time in prison, Sharma read many books. These books changed his life. Some of the books were religious books like the Christian Bible. Sharma says that these books changed the way he looked at life. He started teaching other prisoners how to read. He then changed his name to Dayasagar. This new name means "ocean of sadness and caring."

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After four years in prison he was permitted to leave. But Dayasagar would not leave the prison unless the police promised to keep teaching the other prisoners how to read. The guards had to force Dayasagar to leave the prison.

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After prison, Dayasagar sold his home. He used the money to start a school for poor children. He called the school "Nai Subah" which means "New Morning." Dayasagar teaches sixty children from the village. He does this for free.

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At the beginning of this program, we described Dayasgar's strange clothing - clothes made from cloth bags, with shoes around his neck. His strange clothes are a way for him to recognise his crimes, and ask forgiveness. The school and his clothes are a way for Dayasagar to apologise.

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Dayasagar apologised for all the bad things that he did. But can a person apologise for things that other people did? Well, in the year 2000 Pope John Paul did just that.

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The Catholic Church has existed for more than a thousand years. In this time the church has done many great things. But in his apology, the Pope said that the church has also hurt people. Church policy has caused division and suffering. Sometimes, people have died as a result.

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So the Pope apologised. He apologised to several special groups, including Jews, Gypsies, women and native people. He apologised for the pain the church caused to people who were not Catholic. He apologised for many historical events.

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The Pope even apologised to Galileo. Galileo was a scientist in the seventeenth century. He was one of the first people to say that the Earth moved around the Sun. At this time, the church leaders did not believe this. They thought the Sun moved around the Earth. So the church put Galileo on trial and sent him to prison. Today, scientists and the church agree that the Earth moves around the Sun. Pope John Paul wanted to show the world that the church cares about the truth. He wanted to show that any person or group can be wrong sometimes.

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Many church leaders were not sure if it was a good idea for the Pope to do this. They thought that the church should not admit that it was wrong. They believed that people would not trust them - that it would take away from the church's authority. But the Pope disagreed. He thought that it was important to apologise.

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Many doctors agree that apologising is important. And apologies are good for the giver and receiver. When a person receives an apology, they begin to feel emotional healing. Apologies help people move past anger. When a person does something wrong, they feel bad about it. This feeling can be emotionally damaging. Apologising helps to heal these emotions. Apologising shows that you respect the person you wronged. Apologising also helps keep the person from doing that bad thing again.

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Is there something that you have done that you feel bad about? Is there a person who you have treated badly? Do you need to say "I am sorry" to someone? Here are five things you can do to have a successful apology.

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One, make your apology real. Mean what you say. People can tell if you take responsibility for what you did or if you are lying.

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Two, do not make excuses. An apology is not explaining why you did something, it is saying that you were wrong to do it.

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Three, make a promise to change. A real apology shows that you have learned from what you did. Show that you mean what you say.

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Four, make it clear that you are apologising. Just saying "I am sorry" is not enough. Talk about what you did and then say that you feel bad about doing it. It is important that the person knows you are apologising to them.

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Five, be prepared for the unexpected. Sometimes an apology is followed by the other person apologising. Relationships can be healed. Friendships can be formed. But sometimes an apology does not solve all the problems. It may take time for the person to accept your apology. The person may stay angry with you. You never know how things will end, but an apology can usually help.

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Who do you need to apologise to today?

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The writer and producer of this program was Joshua Leo. The voices you heard were from the United States. Computer users can hear our programs, read our scripts, and see our word list on our website at http://www.radio.english.net. This program is called "The Power of Apology".

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